Only a fulfilled heart can pray, because only a fulfilled heart can be grateful and can feel the grace descending.
The heart is like a flower. Unless it is open, it cannot release its fragrance into the world.
The first step is: accept yourself as you are; drop all shoulds. Don’t carry any ought on your heart! You are not to be somebody else; you are not expected to do something which doesn’t belong to you - you are just to be yourself. Relax! and just be yourself. Be respectful to your individuality. and have the courage to sign your own signature. Don’t go on copying others signatures.