Although birth and death are natural phenomena, even so, the death of a near and dear one is painful. But you must consider this: that which has happened cannot be undone. Consequently, one should think of the duty towards the departed soul, so that the soul can rest in peace. If you allow yourself to become disturbed, then the departed soul cannot be peaceful.
The prana that was residing in that body has left it. You never knew that person’s real identity. You did not know it while they were here and you still don’t know it now that they are gone. Tell me, who really died? That which appeared to have left is, in reality, eternally present. Do not grieve. Rather, you should be grieving for yourself – because you are not recognizing the real and are crying for the unreal. Be free from worries and emotion about that soul’s onward journey.
Direct your mind to think of nothing but your soul, and then concentrate on each exhalation and inhalation.
It is a fact that to cry and lament is extremely harmful for the departed soul. Realize this and also help others to understand it.